Learning from the lecture of shaykh abdul nasir jangda ,a concept I thought I know about, I struggled with it and this lecture I came across earlier this week actually made me look at it more keenly and understand more about it than I ever had before.
Istikhara rooted out from a word “khayr” meaning seeking good , to seek that which is good, from Allah Subhana wa ta’ala .
Most of the people have these huge misconceptions about this part of authenticated prayer which many see as the magic ball.
To learn about the istikhara we first have to understand the concept of it:
Istikhara is a three step decision making process.
(Absolutely opposite of what I thought ) anyway so what are these three steps:
- Use of intellect according to your own ability. Look and visualize more of what benefits or what would be the outcome by thinking critically or more as just utilizing your aqal, “intellect”. Narrow down your conclusion in your own mind.
- Istishara , meaning, seeking counsel or advice. That depends on the decision that you are trying to make of who you should go as to seek advice . Nonetheless,you should go to a person of knowledge or experience or personally most close to you.
- Istikhara, the last step, now as your options are narrowed down you now know what’s important for you , so now you start to lean more in one direction, just a little bit more and all you require is some confidence to make that decision.
Make sure that you turn it into a three step process ,not just one step which is basically the last one and many of us do that. We need to understand this concept more and more before going on and worrying about the outcomes of the istikhara, the misconceptions that goes on and on can be confiscated much more this way.
Pre-Requisites of Istikhara :
What is required for istikhara is what is required for any other prayer. Everything is pretty much the same. No extra pre-requisites required from us.
Supplication of istikhara is to be done after the two rakahs(aside from the obligatory prayer). Recite the supplication in “Arabic”. These two are very much important steps to do and that is basically the procedure of istikhara. It is the dua itself .
Dua and Translation:
“”O Allah! I seek goodness from Your Knowledge and with Your Power (and Might) I seek strength, and I ask from You Your Great Blessings, because You have the Power and I do not have the power. You Know everything and I do not know, and You have knowledge of the unseen. Oh Allah! If in Your Knowledge this action ———————————————— (which I intend to do) is better for my religion and faith, for my life and end [death], for here [in this world] and the hereafter then make it destined for me and make it easy for me and then add blessings [baraka’] in it, for me. O Allah! In Your Knowledge if this action is bad for me, bad for my religion and faith, for my life and end [death], for here [in this world] and the hereafter then turn it away from me and turn me away from it and whatever is better for me, ordain [destine] that for me and then make me satisfied with it.””
Outcomes Of Istikhara:
Primary outcome is the clarity of mind, the confidence that you required. You’ll feel more confident about the decision you were already leaning to. And you’ll feel more confident in making the decision.
Outcome is therefore more to reflect internally , to look into your self. Analyze internally.
And if it’s not the best decision for you is also through the introspective analysis,that is, you’ll feel conflicted , you’ll feel doubtful , you’ll feel down.
Dreams is the thing a believer derives inspiration from. But decisions can’t be made based on the dreams.
That’s how simple the istikhara is.
What if i don’t feel confident about making the decision even when i followed the procedure properly?
The solution is to do it again and again until you feel confident enough to make the decision. Note it , this should be the decision you were leaning towards and you feel you have to make, it’s like your heart is in that decision and you still don’t feel confident enough. You have to keep doing it until you find the courage to make the decision.
What about having somebody else do istikhara for you?
There is no religious precedence we find in this regard. One has to do it himself/herself. No validity in that. If groups of people are involved than they all should do it.
Just in case somebody wants to watch the video and go ahead with learning dua with translation, they should watch after 24 minutes down from this link: ↓